What is the goal of a Jewish wedding?
Is it to simply get married?
Well, yes, but it is so much more than that.
Having Meir Kay as the person who actually is in charge of officiating at the marriage is one way of turning a wedding into a truly happy occasion.
However, a significant part of any wedding are the participants who’s job it is to insure that the bride and the groom are not just happy, but truly happy.
A wedding day should ideally be just the beginning, not the culmination of a relationship.
So, is having a wild dancing party a fitting idea for a wedding celebration?
Well, yes and no.
To have a very upbeat party that the bride and groom can truly celebrate and enjoy their blessing of finding their soulmate is certainly a fitting idea.
However, the idea is not to party and lose control, but to be in an elevated state of rejoicing with and for the bride and groom.
The entire idea of “partying” as in college “partying” is not relevant.
The operative word ought to be rejoicing.
Rejoicing is not only an idea for happy occasions such as weddings or anniversaries.
Rejoicing ought to be a word that people use a state of mind to be used on a day-in, day-out level.
That’s right – to be in a state of rejoicing – over all of the good that God has bestowed on each and every one of us.
If one may ask, “What are you talking about? There is so much suffering and hurt and depression in this world?”
How can a person live in a state of rejoicing?
The answer is focus on the cup being half full.
Yes, the cup may very well be half empty, but if we train ourselves to view all of the positive aspects of our life as the primary aspects of our life, then we will find ourselves in a state of rejoicing and thanking God for all of the good that we are surrounded with – every day of our lives.